The lesson of all rivers, fine words... is that we need to know ourselves well enough to help each other.
Counselors, therapists, teachers, gurus… just show us the way and teach us the skills to be ready for the moment when we meet ourselves. We get into a crisis by our own power and we have to get out of it ourselves. I will not talk in the article about why and how we get into a personal crisis, the focus will be primarily on the solution and at the same time on the advice not to fall back into a personal crisis.
We have always tried to find many explanations or solutions in nature and in natural phenomena. After all, nature has “worked” for billions of years and still exists. And who takes care of it? Alone! Just like man, we are always left alone in the end. We always have to take care of ourselves, because in the end we always make the decisions. Whatever we do, we always have to decide.
And if we are really alone in the end, we have to be prepared for it. We have to be strong enough to stand up to ourselves so that we do not fall under the burden of the burdens we have imposed on ourselves.
To inform you, to open your eyes for the time of your decision has come, when you read this book,
you will go with the times and start a new life, you will overcome fear and become the Lord of the universe and yourself.
Every man has his limits.
(Introduction to the book Warrior without Face, 1994, Milan Krajnc)
The lesson of all rivers, fine words… is that we need to know ourselves well enough to help each other. Counselors, therapists, teachers, gurus… just show us the way and teach us the skills to be ready for the moment when we meet ourselves. We get into a crisis by our own power and we have to get out of it
Now on the path and back to nature.
Take the course of a stream as an example. If the stream flows, it is drinkable and clear, if it is dammed somewhere, the water in it becomes of bad taste and smell. The main difference is the temperature. The stream in the stream is colder. And if we look, where do we humans prefer it? In the warm. So you might say we like to stop and warm up a bit.
We are almost always looking for comfort, or rather lightness. And the state of the stream in stagnation is equal to the state of the person in stagnation. When we feel good or safe in a situation, we try to “anchor” ourselves there. This security is basically just a feeling and is called the “comfort zone“; we are warm there and why should we move if we are nice, we manage the situation. Perhaps
even like the saying: “Better the first in the village than the last in the city.”
And as it gets warmer for us, we find it harder and harder to move. When I go back to the creek, to the part where we dammed it up – the dead sleeve, we could say that it’s getting warmer and warmer, but it also “smells” more and more, not to mention tastes. So we are talking about a comfort zone. However, we ourselves feel this as a bad feeling, dissatisfied with ourselves, the environment also hinders us… we could say that we are feeling the first signs of a personal crisis. We complain, but we do not know why, because basically there is nothing wrong with us.
To sum up: when a stream flows, it is clear and drinkable; when we are in “movement – we develop – we grow personally”, we are satisfied with ourselves, we are happy. When the stream is dammed – dead sleeve, the water is tasteless, disturbed and has a bad smell; when we do the same for a long time, we do not develop, we start to be dissatisfied with ourselves, we are depressed, everything
around us is “wrong”. This means that we have to get out of this comfort zone, even though we feel warm and comfortable. We will “stink” in this puddle, and everyone will avoid us, even though it is usually overfilled in such puddles. But nobody likes frogs either.
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We call a “comfort zone” a state in which we feel good in principle, but we know that not everything is right, and yet we do not move until there is a crisis.
It is the most dangerous zone because it can deceive us very quickly, it lowers our self-confidence and we lose our sense of reality. A friend said ten years ago that “one joint a week really cannot kill”; I went to his funeral yesterday because he died of a heroin overdose; but now he’s carefree, forever.
When we enter the zone of the period, we must above all be stable, and it is only suitable for a short rest. A longer stay can be “fatal”. In any case, it opens the door to a dark world, which we call a personal crisis. The personal crisis begins in our head and then slowly passes to the physical organs, which at first leads to colds, headaches… and eventually cancer. Now this does not mean that everyone who sits down and rests for a while will die of cancer, but it does mean that we should never forget ourselves.
There is always a way out of a personal crisis. But not in the easy way that we got into them.
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