Say NO To Emotional Vampires!
HOW CAN YOU DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES?
Emotional vampires are those who drain our energy and seek us out to recharge! Are they performing flawlessly? Are they doing it perfectly?
YES!
But only as much as we let them.
People can sap your energy for a variety of reasons.
They could be narcissists who require constant attention and adoration. Or, they may be overly dramatic, negative, or constantly complain. Perhaps they are toxically positive and are living a lie in order to survive.
Is your boss or supervisor an emotional vampire?
That’s him if you’ve noticed him constantly seeking attention and making you feel unappreciated.
We recommend that you first try to figure out why it does this. Is it jeopardized by your success?
Solution: Asking for his assistance will tickle his ego.
HOW CAN YOU DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES?
Concentrate on what you have control over. It is your reaction to these circumstances.
Tips
1. If you are insecure or vulnerable, avoid them.
NEVER deal with or interact with an emotional vampire unless you are completely relaxed. Avoid people who are constantly spreading negative energy and attempting to transfer it to you as much as possible. This may appear cold and insensitive to you, particularly if the energy vampire is someone close to you, but it is the only option. Remain calm and do not react.
2. Learn to set boundaries!
Set boundaries for them to reduce their negative impact on you.
3. Reestablish emotional control.
In your mind, reframe situations. Do you really want to be the person who caters to everyone in every situation? And only gets stress and physical and emotional exhaustion in return?
4. Time management that works
Make time for others while also making time for yourself.
5. Collect your battles with care.
Arguing with others, particularly those who hold strong beliefs, will only waste your time and energy.
6. Avoid making too much eye contact.
This is a clear indication that you are not addicted to their attraction or interested in their emotionally addictive conversation.
7. Simply listen and do not speak.
Do not take part in the discussion. Remember that energy vampires crave attention; elicit a response from others. Maintain your cool and ignore any negative comments.
8. Leave
Nobody can make you be around them. Surround yourself with positive, happy people!
9. Don’t show any emotion.
Emotional vampires crave attention and approval. You are not responsible for the happiness of others.
10. Maintain a positive attitude.
Be so upbeat that nothing can shake you. You meditate. Eat healthily, exercise regularly, and spend time with people who don’t drain others’ energy because they have plenty of their own.
11. Say positive affirmations several times.
Visualize. “I am a strong, positive, and good person,” for example. Consider yourself to be shielded by an invisible shield of positive energy, through which negativity always bounces and cannot reach you.
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