Conversation over coffee - Milan Krajnc
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Talks over coffee

I’m not entirely sure if I have developed all my senses like the rest of most.

  • Namely, I see worse, which is known for being superficial and overlooking many things.
  • I hear worse, which shows that I don’t do many things when they order me because I haven’t heard at all.
  • I don't smell, I think I have one nostril completely covered with bone and then I very rarely praise how we give it to smell nice.

Of course, I wanted to “fix” all these senses with the help of doctors, but all the results are excellent, I should just have nose surgery… but somehow I don’t have that courage. Although I often looked for causes somewhere else, not in the physical body. Namely, many times I am removed to my own world and I am not interested in this outside world at all. Some say that I am absent and therefore superficial… that I really am, in this world, I am superficial because I am no longer interested in this world. I am not interested in the material world, I am only interested in what is felt, no longer in what is seen.

So I decided to help people just by helping them develop emotions to feel again, namely I found out after all the conversations that people no longer feel, they just live, after what others say. No one is aware of the moment anymore.

So lately when clients come to me, I mostly work on their feelings, and almost everyone has the same initial problem, they don’t feel it. Therefore, I use the following three exercises for leverage:

  1. Set 3 alarms on your phone and whenever it rings, ask yourself WHO I AM AND WHAT I FEEL, without giving yourself answers. Repeat this for 3 weeks, every day.
  2. Every morning, write down a wish for how you want to feel at the end of the day and then compare that feeling to the evening feeling. If there is a big difference, analyze the day, what were these activities that prevented your desires.
  3. For five people who are emotionally close to you, write down their positive and negative things. Then in 5 days, read as if they are all yours and those you can’t accept, surround them. Then read them again in three days… and we will talk about them over coffee.

All exercises are described in more detail in the book DYNAMIC MANAGEMENT MODEL, and an even more detailed description comes in the book ME.

I have been thinking for a long time about how to deepen the project I am setting up. So I shut myself down completely this year, some would say I was punished for not drinking any alcohol, not smoking cigars anymore… no pleasure. Namely, I wanted to have no more stimuli, but for all pleasures to develop from me.

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And so two childhood desires came out of me: Having my own restaurant in Monte Carlo and the peak of my creation will be reached when I write lyrics for French chanson (three lyrics are just being translated into French).

The bar will be used for conversations and art. Until the bar is fully set up, I will be discovering flavors in other bars while drinking coffee.

Namely, when I drop coffee on my tongue, some old memories come to me, I don’t even know if they are mine, or pictures of those who process coffee, pictures of landscapes where it grew… or just some universal pictures that illustrate feelings.

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I detect coffee first by smell…. although it is not supposed to smell, and then taste it with the tip of the tongue. So a new section is being born on my blog, a conversation over coffee. You’re welcome.

On the blog, I will write about the feelings that are born when drinking coffee, about how to develop emotions through artistic creation: songs, dance…

For the time being, the section will only be in Slovene and will remain so, but then it will slowly develop in other languages, English / French.

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Author of the article: Milan Krajnc, pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager I teach you to look “at yourself” as a third person. For more information or an introductory meeting, write to me at
Conversation over coffee - Milan Krajnc
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The winning “note”!

It will be another one of those days when I cannot wake up and the feelings have completely disappeared, it will be another lost day where I will only check off the activities I have to do and I cannot wait for the end to go to sleep… and so there’ll be one less day in my life, one day closer to the end. A lost day. Which is scary when I already know I am gonna lose the day. Which is that all we get at
birth is time, and now I am doing it to her in a devastating way.

I cannot get cold water from the tap to wake me up. I was just looking for something “strong,” something that would wake me up but keep me sober at the same time. I do not want to help myself with artificial stimulants.

I sit down on the terrace and open the phone when I review all the activities, and I almost have a stroke when I see how important a decision I have to make at 11am, I really need to wake up. I basically need that first-class feeling that I have not felt for a long time.

The memory brings me back, far back to my early youth, when I was an active athlete, a 400 m runner. Where you run a few 1000 miles in a year, you lift a few 1000 tons of weights to improve your result by 0.1 seconds. But it takes so much effort to feel really good in the end. And so I trained for the state championship in September 1992, but it was also the last year of high school, which meant the trip to the prom, the one, the trip you wait for… and the state championship took place on Saturday and Sunday, but a week before that we were in Spain on a prom trip and so we came back on Friday, the day before the grand finale, so I worked hard for that trip a few years ago as I did for that trip. I just did not get out of the car when I already had a start over 400m and… the result of all these years of hard work and a week of boundless joy brought me 4th place (but I already had several national championship titles).

I do not know what was more important, what feeling… relaxed on the trip or that triumph at the game that was not… I could not think about it, I was too tired. But the next day we had the game at 9 in the morning, which is the middle of the night for me. The race was at… …100 yards, which is not my discipline. Everybody went out for a morning coffee… I’d never had coffee before… …but the crowd
ordered an espresso. I do not remember the feeling when I made my first coffee, but I became state champion in that race. And I have been drinking coffee ever since. So I had a triumphant feeling too, maybe because of the coffee.

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From the past, the thought brought me back to this moment. Coffee, coffee can wake me up and give me a feeling of excellence. I need something that captures my best feeling, something that keeps me in that winning rhythm all day long.

I looked around the kitchen counter and stopped at a Nespresso coffee machine, I knew they even had a collection of different coffees. I flick through their catalog and my gaze stops at Kazaar coffee, the strongest with a strong taste. I knew that I needed an inner stimulus to wake me up.

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I prepared myself according to their instructions, as I was also preparing for the top games že, and this first touch of the tongue awakened in me a winning feeling, as if my body had been renewed. When the coffee entered the body through the tongue, the spirit also awoke, everything became crystal clear
and I was as new. This incredible feeling awakened in me the call of a warrior from the past.

All my thoughts and all my energy were focused on this 11 o’clock in the morning where I will win, just like I had drunk my morning coffee before, before my discipline. And I drank it on time.

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Author of the article: Milan Krajnc pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager I teach you to look “at yourself” as a third person. For more information or an introductory meeting, write to me at
Lover for converstions - Milan Krajnc
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Lover of conversation

Psychotherapists and coaches, there is no shortage of work these days. After all, many people find themselves in different situations of need, think about different things and then get stuck somewhere mentally or just have a long time.

Most of the time, those who call are those who have nothing lacking in the material world. They are women, with two children, married, a regular job… in short, everything seems to be fine.

But in reality these people are bored, their husbands do not talk to them, now they really cannot talk to anyone and are left alone. However, it can be seen that these are not really therapies, but only conversations. Conversations that they have never had with a partner, neither at the beginning nor on another day… except when he was at the bottom and broke at some point… the rest just lives a quiet, boring life, without depths, feelings and emotions… just for basic needs.

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And when I look through those eyes, most of the customers I have had over the last 20 years were actually the most who just came to talk. As a result, many conversations shifted from the office to walks in nature, sports activities… and later they did not understand why they had to pay for these things. Although I reminded them that it was only active occupational therapy… and her reaction was odgovore, but we are not friends. No, we are not friends… we do therapy… and so I ended therapy.

Therapists live by “talking,” time and knowledge of talking is our only tool, and if we share that, we will devalue ourselves.

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So, those of you who need a conversation, we are always here for you, but if you are aware and feel that our work helps you, then respect us as human beings. Each of us has his own life, which we very rarely show in public. When we appear in public, for interviews or professional work, because we need advertising ourselves, it does not mean that we are public figures and are available for everyone.

Even if our mission is to help people in need, we are simply people who also need our lives. There may be fewer customers now, but there will be more lives.

Thank you.

Avtor - Milan Krajnc
Author of the article: Milan Krajnc pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager I teach you to look “at yourself” as a third person. For more information or an introductory meeting, write to me at
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