Unresponsiveness, or having time for yourself - Milan Krajnc
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Unresponsiveness: Or have time for yourself!

A few days ago I deactivated my personal Facebook account because it contained too much
information. Namely, I end each day with an analysis of the day, how I used the day and what I gained,
I make a plan for the next day, so that I can clear my thoughts and the whole mess in my head… I do
not bring psychological garbage into the world of dreams.

And to clear my emotions, I always recorded what happened during the day in the form of a personal storey with an instructive epilogue. This was followed by over 180,000 people, and then there was an unusually large response, although I did not want to get involved in comments, personal messages… The people saw themselves in it, they felt solutions for themselves, that they were not alone… and
there were countless messages, so I decided to step back for a while to rest my thoughts. So now I just write these business blogs, here… And it kind of made me think about how deeply committed we are in this digital world. Because I had dozens of unanswered messages and just did not have any physical success… then e-mails, phone calls, acquaintances, in short, I started to be very selective in order not to drown in this mass of information…

And because I used to be very responsive and spoiled a lot of people, I disappointed them now with my inability to react immediately… which I saw in the insulting comments… but I just could not do it if I wanted to survive, which I have mentioned several times in various records. However, this was not heard… and everyone wanted confirmation… until I reached the point where I was able to sever all communication. And now, everyone is left without anything…

I first noticed this addiction or obsession with digitalization in 1999, uffff years ago, I do not know it by heart, because my brain has shrunk completely due to the information provided… when I wrote all the manuals for MS OFFICE 2000 and MS Project 2000, and from 2003 to 2008 I even gave lectures at the faculty of Civil Engineering, UM, at the Department of Transportation and Construction Informatics, Project Management… so I was purely focused on digitalization.

Unresponsiveness, or having time for yourself - Milan Krajnc

Recently, when I set up the Dynamic Model of Guiding in Reality, where everything is based on natural processes, my phone was too busy… so now I always have a ringing in silence, e-mails, answer only at the end of the day or only on Sunday evening… to even feel that I live in this real world, not in the
world we created to make our lives easier, but we became prisoners.

So I am actually drawn back to the way it was when we were growing up… without digitization… even though it’s mostly about self-discipline, as it happens to me now, when I do not carry digital things anymore… which means I am there for others, recklessly, not for business… I do not know what all this…

But at least I feel and live.

Apparently I had to go through all these phases to finally feel alive, even if I am reckless!

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Author of the article: Milan Krajnc, pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager
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Prisoners of Virtual Order - Milan Krajnc
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Prisoners of apparent order!

Every day we listen more and more to how it is necessary to start working on a project, but nobody
knows exactly what that means. Most people are convinced that these are projects, just calls for
proposals, where you apply with an idea. What we really do. We can look at everything about the
project, including how you work.

What exactly is a project?

A project is a one-off action that has a clear goal and at the same time clearly outlines the path you need to take, when it starts, which path you need to take, when and where you will reach the goal.

Is not that the way to work?

Imagine that in the morning you are sitting in a car or on a bicycle, totally confused, and you are just starting to drive, and then you pass a bar where you see a friend and have a coffee with him, and when you get hungry you remember that he is close to home, a mutual acquaintance, and that he always has
something in the fridge, and then all three of you go to the shop to drink a dozen beers; and you sit by the river and reminisce about your youth… and you never came to work!

Now, one day a year you can afford the excuse that you are sick, but what if every day was like this and all people were like this… you’d be living in total chaos. Although, most of us have that feeling, and then we create a virtual order and float between these four walls, and we make it feel like we are in a regular job … and the result of that day is worse than spending the whole day with friends.

Prisoners of apparent order! Milan Krajnc

I have not started writing, I just want to show how we live in an empty space and set ourselves task after task and such tasks without a clear – ultimate goal, just to be distracted because we do not know what we really need to do. That is why some people go to the extreme and organize their private life in a project or, in other words, plan their life to the second. When they say that project work is needed at every turn, even in their private lives. Because only by taking the military route can we remain organized. We human beings have the feeling that we are always getting out of balance and going from one extreme to the other. The result at the weekend is fatigue and very little real reward.

When I write this article, I am constantly referring to human qualities and nature, but we must be aware that it is our qualities that also create processes in the business environment. And if we have not built up a solid personality, we very quickly submit or surrender to the environment or, if the environment has no clear boundaries, we let our personality come alive in the business environment.

That is why we cannot say that companies are equal to each other, because every manager and every group of employees has different characteristics and from this a different process is created, regardless of the fact that companies have the same activity and the same product.

There was a time when companies resorted to the ISO standard, but it served more for marketing than for the actual organization of work. The ISO standard clearly defined the processes and rules to be followed, but did not interfere with people’s nature and habits. To those who introduced it, it seemed perfectly normal for employees to work as they accepted the instructions. Perhaps this really happened, and most thought that by following this standard they would also create order in their personal lives, but human nature is stronger than external factors. Therefore the standard ISO is just an inscription on the wall.

And the companies have once again found themselves in the chaos of a decade ago. The pressure on employees is even greater that more work is needed. And if we take the time actually used and compare it with the company’s income, we find that we are still wasting too much time in vain or, as electricians would say, paying for too much “wasted” energy.

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So the best form in these times proved to be Project Office. A project office is not just an office where someone carries out projects, but a way of thinking, not one that keeps you trapped in your own thoughts and projects, but a way of thinking that begins to set you free and restore order in your life.

So what is the crucial point that makes one Project Office better than others? As I said at the beginning, it is a project with a clear beginning and end. So the way of thinking of a project teaches us to set clear goals, to have a beginning and an end.

Why is it important to get things done? If we do not finish the project, this thought – the thought – is spinning around in our head over and over again, and when it flies so “freely” through our subconscious, it creates psychological garbage, which is created more and more every day and kills our creativity or. the freedom and peace in our head. Therefore it is important to draw conclusions so that we can move forward.

The project has three phases: Preparation, implementation and conclusion.

All three phases take the same amount of time, although we are used to 95% of the implementation time. Here I am talking about the natural cycle, spring, summer, autumn and winter. The project preparation is like spring, Implementing Summer and Completing Autumn, and all three cycles are of equal length. Winter is a break, a resting place, because this is also an important part of the project
work. There must always be a pause between projects. Especially to rest our thoughts.

When setting up a project work method, the main thing is to eliminate as much empty space as possible from our thoughts and our lives, the “reactive energy”.

How do you set up a Project Office in a company?

Setting up a project office starts with the way of thinking. We have to treat the working day as a project. When we come to work in the morning, we first make an appointment with ourselves, set a goal for the day and define the way to get there as precisely as possible, so we make a daily plan that we try to follow, I am talking about writing down all the activities on your computer or on a piece of paper. Also determine under what conditions… e.g. we need peace, i.e. switch off all distractions (phone, Facebook, Skype). We try to stick to this plan as much as possible, and at the end of the working day we make another meeting with ourselves – we check if we have achieved all the tasks and goals set or not. At the same time, we start working on a plan for the next day, i.e. we make the same plan as you did this morning, so just check tomorrow morning to see what to expect. This means preparing for the day and also finishing it.

Prisoners of apparent order! Milan Krajnc

What do we do with it? By writing some things down, our mind no longer thinks of all the written information, but has the information that everything is collected in one place and it is no longer a matter of not forgetting something, but of developing new ideas or putting them down in writing. Order begins to establish itself in our mind. So we start doing business at work and no longer take it home with us. This is how we start to reduce negative stress by 30%.

It is basically a training, and we start to repeat this way of working, which takes 15 minutes a day, every day for the next three weeks.

After three weeks, we start planning for the whole week, setting daily targets in the weekly plan, because there is still a daily plan, and after the weekly plan, we move on to monthly planning, where only weekly targets are set, and then to annual planning, which in practice is called the annual plan.

So the way of thinking of the project is not something new, it is just a way of moving from one form of action to another, more orderly, and at the same time it does not allow us to return to the original chaos, because we are basically shaping our personality or. one could say we are becoming much more mature.

When we have mastered this way of thinking, we begin to introduce the same concept among the employees, or, in other words, let us begin with this concept of leadership. You will certainly say that you have weekly meetings anyway, but it is a system of meetings. Meetings should be divided into three levels.

Prisoners of apparent order! Milan Krajnc

The first part is intended to solve organizational problems, i.e. what bothers us in the company or hinders us in our daily work, such as communication, lack of materials, relationship with employees. When we finish the first part, we draw conclusions and also write them down. Maybe someone would say that such unimportant things are for the end; but we must be aware that just such things are like a stone in a shoe, there is no way we can relax to reach the final goal.

In the second part of the course, we will deal with development and marketing activities that are designed to direct our thoughts into the future and thus prepare the mind to overcome more easily the problems we will encounter in the last, third part of the course.

The third part is dedicated to projects. Here we review all phases, divide the tasks and solve the problems. By first freeing our minds from insignificant problems, we can now solve real projects that are our main concern and will allow us to survive.

Each sentence should not last longer than 15 minutes, i.e. 45 minutes in total. If a project needs to be worked on separately, only the team meets, so that everyone in the team can listen.

We do the course twice a week, we divide the tasks on Monday, we check the implementation on Thursday. On Friday we do not plan anything, but leave a day to realize things that are important for existence but not vital, and so we slowly prepare for the weekend.

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Of course you will ask yourself, but who works only four days today, because if you want to survive, you have to work 24 hours. That is not true!

It is necessary to put the human being, that is, oneself, in the foreground. We must not subordinate ourselves to business, because business is for us, not us for him. And we really must learn to enjoy ourselves more. And the project-oriented way of working and thinking teaches us exactly that.

To distinguish between private and business life and to be much more efficient in business.

Namely that there is too much empty space in business and private life. The above theory of colleges did indeed develop from the flowing of a river in nature. When the river flows, it is drinkable and clear, when it is dammed, it has a bad smell and taste. It is the same with the flow of information. If we do
not have the information we need to work or live smoothly, we begin to create an unrealistic picture, and this creates an empty space in our lives (This is a dynamic communication model, which is described in more detail in the book: “Between things and doing is all ocean” ).

So as soon as we have mastered this way of communicating with our employees, we start thinking in a project-oriented way. And only now can we start reorganizing or. setting up a Project Office. Because this is how we created the basis, and with the slowly changing habits, the environment was not even aware of it. Everything else is now just a technical set-up.

We see that everything happens in our heads, so we first have to create order in our heads so that the mess does not fall back on our environment.

Prisoners of apparent order! Milan Krajnc

Each Activity under the project must have a clear indication of what its purpose is and how it will affect the objective of the project, who is responsible for it and who will carry it out, how it relates to other contractors and tasks, the factors and tasks on which it depends, when it starts and when it must end. The financial factor is very important: the hourly rate of the person who will carry out the project, the price of the material and all other costs and profits.

Project management is an orderly way of working. It is clear who does what and what their responsibilities are. The individual is fully responsible for his work.

Setting up a project office is actually a process of reorganizing any organization. The process is similar whether the project work is introduced in a company or in a public institution, community and the like.

A time-consuming and expensive process

The first step is to “clean up” and edit, which includes an analysis of the work process to show us the time constraints. We first have to start with ourselves, create order and set up an organized approach according to common guidelines.

Setting up a project office in a fixed environment is a time-consuming and expensive process. That is why we have to tackle the reorganization step by step. First, a so-called project management office, sometimes known as an investment management service, must be set up. Here, projects are prepared with the relevant departments and then implemented. In this case, the project office has the role of a supervisor and assistant.

Gradually, the way the project works is moving from large investments to regular work. This organizational form of the system is suitable for large companies and state and municipal administration. For small companies or those in the process of being established, it is advisable to reorganize the project at a certain point in time or to start project work as soon as they enter the market.

Far beyond Scandinavia and Japan

The success of a project-organized company also depends on external factors. In practice, however, it can quickly collapse here. After all, the state should also create the conditions for project operation: Change laws, accelerate administrative processes and simplify administrative procedures. As reality is
still far from what we would like to see, we will certainly not find a company in Slovenia that would work entirely according to the rules of the project office.

However, this should not be an excuse for not introducing improvements. Nevertheless, such work can change a lot if we only mention the effective delegation of tasks, the assumption of responsibility and the rethinking of employees. In Europe the conditions for a project office are successfully created by the Scandinavian countries, in Asia by Japan.

The project plan must be very precise

Each Activity under the project must have a clear indication of what its purpose is and how it will affect the objective of the project, who is responsible for it and who will carry it out, how it relates to other contractors and tasks, the factors and tasks on which it depends, when it starts and when it must end. The financial factor is very important: the hourly rate of the person who will carry out the project, the
price of the material and all other costs and profits.

All these are data that we have to enter into the plan. It is best to make the plan in the form of a table and add a column for realization during the execution. This way we have a realistic picture of the project all the time and see where the deviation comes from. Let’s not forget to set milestones to review the subgoals and measures in case of deviation from the plan.

What is a project?

A project is a one-time undertaking, it is a series of tasks aimed at the same goal, it is limited in time with a known beginning and end.

For and against the project office

Advantages

Order and transparency of processes

Lower costs

Secure transactions

Simplify processes

Relief of the employees

Slabosti

Long introduction due to changes in thinking

Chaos if everyone does not follow the rules

Emotionally feel like we are running out of gas

Author of the article: Milan Krajnc, pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager
I teach you to look “at yourself” as a third person. For more information or an introductory meeting, write to me at official@milankrajnc.com

He is the Author of the Dynamic Model of Business Management, based on natural laws. The ultimate goal of DMV is the operation of the company as a Project Office. You can order his books at:

An electronic version of the book can be ordered here.

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Author of the article: Milan Krajnc, pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager I teach you to look “at yourself” as a third person. For more information or an introductory meeting, write to me at official@milankrajnc.com
Project office - Milan Krajnc
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Project office

In the last period there has been a great demand for the establishment of Project Office in the company or in some organizational units. However, I see that they are only now beginning to think about what the project is about. When I carried out the analysis according to the bibliography, I found 53 professional articles describing Project Management and Project Office, although there were many more… but somehow I thought that maybe I would summarize all the knowledge in a new article. Although the book Project Office: Dynamic Leadership will be published by the end of the year, thisshould be an introduction.

A project is a sequence of moments, consisting of the beginning, the execution and the end. Between the second and the first project there is always a pause… if the projects are not too much connected and a straight line is formed. Think of this as a heartbeat… vibration… life… straight line… death…

And when we look at life in this way, we see that everything can be a project, a trip to work, a conversation with a friend… even if someone says we only have processes… yes, that is true, but the process is made up of several smaller operations, and each operation has to be started, executed and finished, so the process is basically the sum of the projects.

We would say that project management is basically a purely natural process. Let us look at the year: spring (start), summer (execution), fall (end), winter (pause) or look at the day morning (start), day (performance), evening (end), night (break). It is basically a purely natural process, which means that we should do everything like this.

We forget all the moments, we do not have breaks, we do not prepare at all, but we do what we do and we very rarely finish because we are already in a hurry for the next project.

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so completely unnatural… so we have to go back to nature… in fact, now is such a time… if we do not want to break down. In fact, nature is already making choices, those who live so fast also die fast, heart failure, brain hemorrhage, accident, by cell phone while driving…

Basically we have no choice but to organize our day as a project like the natural cycle. But such a transition will not be easy, so it is necessary to build a bridge… and that bridge is called the Project Office… yes, of course Project Office is also an artificial creation, but it is absolutely necessary to change from one system to another.

Nature does not have Project Office, but everything happens as it should… because of the natural cycle, namely nature only gives impulses when something has to happen, and the role of the project office… must give an impulse when something has to be done.

The project office must be established within the company, as a special department that will grow into the operation of the whole company in the long term, and so the company will function on a completely natural basis.

We start by setting up a project office by first listing all the processes that take place in the company, dividing them into those that are repetitive (daily operations) and those that occur only once (investments, process renewal), and then we divide them into the phases in which they are in: Start, implementation, completion.

Of course, it is necessary to have a clear goal of the company and a clear strategy and to classify the projects according to the strategy. At the same time it is necessary to optimize the business processes so that everything we have delayed can now be prepared in one piece and in parallel with the training of the employees or. in another way. The dynamic communication model, which is already completely in harmony with the natural process, has worked best here.

Dinamični model vodenja. Milan Krajnc. Tiskana knjiga.

Once we know exactly what the work process looks like and what types of projects are repeating, we can start thinking about software support. First we have to look at information and business systems, whether the information can be linked together or how we can update everything together… only then
we start to think about a project management application.

The role of Project Office is essentially a coordination center where all information, deadlines, responsibilities, documentation are collected, and above all it is a great reminder and basis for controlling.

Project managers are never in the Project Office, but the project office is only their support, unless it happens that everyone works only for the sake of the Project Office; it becomes an end in itself. However, the size depends on the size and type of the projects. In principle, the project office… would have deputy project managers for more details, write to contact@project-office.at or wait for the book.

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List of professional articles on Project Management and Project Office, in Cobiss under the number .: 91024:

  1. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Reorganization, optimization, rationalization: What does it actually mean when we reorganize, optimize or rationalize a company or processes ? Entrepreneur. [Printed Ed.], May 2006, Volume 15, No. 5, p. 34-36, Fig. [COBISS.SI- ID 20650296]
  2. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Challenging reorganization: project management and internal project office. Business Assistance , May 2006, Vol. 1, No. 2, pp. 12-15, Fig., tables. [COBISS.SI- ID 20672056], p.12-15, Fig., tables.
  3. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. What is a project office? : Only a percentage of the respondents work like this. Business Assistance , May 2006, Volume 1, No. 2, p. 19-22, Fig. [COBISS.SI- ID 20673080], p. 19-22, ill.
  4. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Office for Information Projects. Business Assistance , May 2006, Volume 1, No. 2, p. 25, Fig. [COBISS.SI- ID 20672312].
  5. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. The success of a project depends on ourselves: we are the ones who design the processes and create the projects. Business Assistance , May 2006, Volume 1, No. 2, p. 28, Fig. [COBISS.SI- ID 20672568].
  6. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. The influence of personal goals on project progress. Proj. network Slov., jun. 2006, Volume 9, No. 2, pp. 30-33 [COBISS.SI- ID 16363750]
  7. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan, KRAJNC PAVLICA, Simona. With project management against the crisis in the company. Proj. network Slov., Dec. 2006, volume 9, no. 3, p. 39-41 [COBISS.SI- ID 20651832].
  8. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Stress in the palm of the hand. Project Office , January 6, 2006, Volume 2, No. 1. [COBISS.SI- ID 20833336]
  9. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. A project like a stage: “We have to live life and not play! Project office, 25 February. 2006, volume 2, no. 4. [COBISS.SI- ID 20834616] 
  10. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Software development. Project Office , 10 March 2006, Volume 2, No. 5
    [COBISS.SI- ID 20834360]
  11. RAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project: commercial and residential buildings. Project Office , April 11, 2006, Volume 2, No. 7. [COBISS.SI- ID 20835128]
  12. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project indicators. Project Office , 11 April 2006, Volume 2, No. 7 [COBISS.SI- ID 20834872]
  13. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management against “organized chaos”: Tools: Strategy. Entrepreneur. [Printed ed.], Feb. 2005, volume 14, no. 2, p. 42-44, fig. [COBISS.SI- ID 20652600]
  14. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management. Project office, 7 March. 2005, volume 1, no. 2 [COBISS.SI- ID 20835384]
  15. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in public institutions. Project Office , 25th August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20838456]
  16. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Management of real estate projects. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20837944]
  17. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in waste management. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20840504]
  18. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in consulting. Project Office , 25th August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20836664]
  19. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in banking. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20836920]
  20. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in associations. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20838968]
  21. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in ecology. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20840248].
  22. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in civil engineering. Project Office, August 25, 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20839736]
  23. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in computer science. Project Office , August 25, 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20839992]
  24. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in education. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20842552]
  25. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in the personnel department. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20839480]
  26. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in agriculture. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20840760]
  27. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management. Project Office , August 25, 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20836408]
  28. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in marketing. Project Office , August 25, 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20842808]
  29. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in the media. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20842296]
  30. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management for the organization of events. Project Office , 25 August 2005, volume 1, no. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20855608].
  31. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in the accounting department. Project Office, August 25, 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20837432]
  32. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in development agencies. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20838712]
  33. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in development. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20842040]
  34. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in the branch. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20841016]
  35. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in tourism. Project Office, 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20841784].
  36. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in chambers. Project Office , 25 August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9 [COBISS.SI- ID 20837688]
  37. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in relations. Project Office , 25th August 2005, Volume 1, No. 9. [COBISS.SI- ID 20839224]
  38. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in gastronomy. Project Office , August 29, 2005,Volume 1, No. 10 [COBISS.SI- ID 20856376].
  39. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. The female age of entrepreneurship. Project Office , August 29, 2005, Volume 1, No. 10 [COBISS.SI- ID 20856120]
  40. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. European Coordination Center . Project Office , August 29, 2005, Volume 1, No. 11. [COBISS.SI- ID 20856888]
  41. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management for traffic accidents. Project Office , 15 September 2005, Volume 1, No. 12 [COBISS.SI- ID 20857912].
  42. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in car service. Project Office , 15 September 2005, Volume 1, No. 12 [COBISS.SI- ID 20857400].
  43. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in insurance companies. Project Office , 15 September 2005, Volume 1, No. 12 [COBISS.SI- ID 20858168].
  44. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Also with project management we can accelerate the development ! Project office, 9 December 2005, Volume 1, No. 16 [COBISS.SI- ID 20835640].
  45. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Peacefully against the crisis: We speak of a crisis in a company when the company has lost control of the key factors that influence its operations and work processes. Entrepreneur. [Printed Ed.], Nov. 2004, Vol. 13, No. 11, pp. 36-37, ill. [COBISS.SI- ID 15023846]
  46. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Project management in the personnel department. Managing Director, Jan. 2006, Volume 1, No. 3, p. 25 [COBISS.SI- ID 20650040]
  47. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. The state will always have enough money for the right projects and capable people. Weekly (Ptuj), 17 October 2002, Volume 55, No. 42, p. 3, Fig. [COBISS.SI- ID 49982977]
  48. KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan, KRAJNC PAVLICA, Simona. The destination – for someone who knows where he is sailing to, the wind is always favorable. In: PALČIČ, Iztok, publisher (s). Project Forum 2007, Podčetrtek, 13-15 June 2007. Project Excellence: A collection of lectures. Ljubljana: Slovenian Association for Project Management, 2007, pp. 124-129. [COBISS.SI- ID 20641336]
  49. HAUC, Gregor, KRAJNC PAVLICA, Milan. Strategic goals – how do we check whether we are on the right track? In: PALČIČ, Iztok, Editor (s). Project Forum 2007, Podčetrtek, 13-15 June 2007. Project Excellence: A collection of lectures. Ljubljana: Slovenian Association for Project Management, 2007, p. 229-234. [COBISS.SI- ID 20641592]
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Project management and modern project office; demanding reorganization

Each Activity under the project must have a clear indication of what its purpose is and how it will affect the objective of the project, who is responsible for it and who will carry it out, how it relates to other contractors and tasks, the factors and tasks on which it depends, when it starts and when it must end.

The financial factor is very important: the hourly rate of the person who will carry out the project, the price of the material and all other costs and profits.

Project management is an orderly way of working. It is clear who does what and what their responsibilities are. The individual is fully responsible for his work.

Setting up a project office is actually a process of reorganizing any organization. The process is similar whether the project work is introduced in a company or in a public institution, community and the like.

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A time-consuming and expensive process

The first step is to “clean up” and edit, which includes an analysis of the work process to show us the time constraints. We first have to start with ourselves, create order and set up an organized approach according to common guidelines.

Setting up a project office in a fixed environment is a time-consuming and expensive process. That is why we have to tackle the reorganization step by step. First, a so-called project management office, sometimes known as an investment management service, must be set up. Here, projects are prepared with the relevant departments and then implemented. In this case, the project office has the role of a supervisor and assistant.

Gradually, the project office’s mode of operation changes from large investments to regular work. This organizational form of the system is suitable for large companies and state and municipal administration. For small companies or those in the process of being set up, it is advisable to reorganize the project at a certain point in time or to start project work as soon as they come onto the market.

Far beyond Scandinavia and Japan

The success of a project-organized company also depends on external factors. In practice, however, it can quickly collapse here. After all, the state should also create the conditions for project operation: Change laws, accelerate administrative processes and simplify administrative procedures. As reality is
still far from what we would like to see, we will certainly not find a company in Slovenia that would work entirely according to the rules of the project office.

However, this should not be an excuse for not introducing improvements. Nevertheless, such work can change a lot if we only mention the effective delegation of tasks, the assumption of responsibility and the rethinking of employees. In Europe the conditions for a project office are successfully created by the Scandinavian countries, in Asia by Japan.

The project plan must be very precise

Each Activity under the project must have a clear indication of what its purpose is and how it will affect the objective of the project, who is responsible for it and who will carry it out, how it relates to other contractors and tasks, the factors and tasks on which it depends, when it starts and when it must end. The financial factor is very important: the hourly rate of the person who will carry out the project, the price of the material and all other costs and profits.

All these are data that we have to enter into the plan. It is best to make the plan in the form of a table and add a column for realization during the execution. This way we have a realistic picture of the project all the time and see where the deviation comes from. Let’s not forget to set milestones to review the subgoals and measures in case of deviation from the plan.

What is a project?

A project is a one-time undertaking, it is a series of tasks aimed at the same goal, it is limited in time with a known beginning and end.

For and against the project office

Advantages

Order and transparency of processes

Lower costs

Secure transactions

Simplify processes

Relief of the employees

Weaknesses

Long introduction due to changes in thinking

Chaos if everyone does not follow the rules

Emotionally feel like we are running out of gas

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The project should be managed by an expert from the field he/she is in charge of and should be accompanied by a coordinator who carries out the administrative part of the project. Such a coordinator can be a coordinator for all project leaders, i.e. they deal with the profession and he with the administration. After all, it is the administration that causes most problems for the project experts. This person or group of coordinators is called the project office. The role of the project office is not only administration, but also coordination of the project team.

Every other word we hear in meetings and in public is “project”. In the past we used to say that to work in an orderly fashion it is necessary to work on a project, but now that we are working on a project, the problem arises of how to manage such a large number of projects. Project work without proper management can cause even more chaos than we had before we started working on the project.

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The project should be managed by an expert from the field he/she is in charge of and should have a coordinator who carries out the administrative part of the project. Such a coordinator can be a coordinator for all the project leaders, which means that they deal with the profession and he with the administration. After all, it is the administration that causes most problems for the project experts. This
person or group of coordinators is called a project office. The role of the project office is not only the administration, but also the coordination of the project team and, as those who are always late would say, “they are after me again”.

The coordinator is therefore the head of the project office, who, together with the project manager, takes care of a well-prepared schedule and budget.

Then the head of the project office informs each contractor about the tasks he has to perform and at the same time checks whether the tasks have been completed (it must not affect the quality and content, i.e. the task of the project manager) when the time is up. checks when the tasks should be completed towards the end. In the event of delays, it must inform all those involved in the project and
especially warn them if the project is on a critical path. All information and group communication must take place via the project office. The head of the project office ensures that all information is in one place and at the same time makes sure that everyone is informed about everything.

The “housewife” should coordinate them
The head of the project office should be a “housewife type”. If we know that a housewife is known for keeping everything in its place in her home, she knows exactly when a food is running out, she never runs out, she manages her finances very carefully and has authority in her field. The head of the project office should have the same qualities. It is sufficient that he or she has at least a sixth degree in economics with a good knowledge of computer science, is conflict-free, orderly and well-organized, and above all knows how to create authority and set limits. If it is a smaller company, this work can also be done by a business assistant. Otherwise, the secretary can be promoted to this position.

The project office is therefore not a free place where projects are managed, but a person who coordinates the information generated by the projects.

Tasks of the project office:

  • Keeping minutes,
  • Inform other members of the project team about changes,
  • Coordination of appointments and meetings,
  • Monitoring of financial and time schedules,
  • to inform about the tasks to be performed,
  • Search for alternative sources.

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Advantages of establishing a project office:

  • Relief of the experts from the administration,
  • Increase the efficiency of the project team,
  • Improving communication,
  • effective coordination,
  • Risk reduction,
  • to increase the stability of the project,
  • to increase the stability of the project,
  • Save time and money.
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The parents write the script, the children make the film

"Today a psychotherapist, not an economist, can save a company from a crisis".

Nowadays, when the extent of the general crisis is reflected mainly in personality crises, we hear more and more often that masks are falling and real faces of people are appearing. As I have been dealing with crises for more than 13 years, I have tried to find the simplest explanation for the phenomenon. The “tool” that helped me to explain the “mask game” is called Transactional Analysis.

In this essay I would like to introduce the term Transaction Analysis in a more popular form. The term is not well known to the public in our country, and when I mention it, the vast majority of them believe that it has to do with the economy, with finance. Even when reading the literature, which is Transactional Analysis, I did not find any explanation for it anywhere, or at least for me at the time when I had not yet studied it.

In this article I would like to show how everyone in his life with experiences comes to the basics of Transactional Analysis in a natural way. (Note: As a physics student I was a member of the Society for the Interpretation of Science of Kvarkadabra, where I “translated” high science into colloquial language. The contributions are summarized in the book: “WHY IS THE SKY BLUE?, Krtina 2004″)

If one would translate Transactional Analysis into colloquial language, one could call it Communication Analysis. These are not just the words of the message we have received. Everyone uses his own way of communication.

When we are in Slovenia and speak Slovene, it does not mean that we understand each other. In addition to the words (which is only 7%) the way of communication is also the color of the voice (which makes up 38% of communication) and body language (55%). The moment someone stands in
front of us and tells us something, we should not only pay attention to the words, because that would mean that we understand only 7% of what he wants to tell us, but we should look at him as a whole, because he tells us with his whole body. In technical language we would say that with the knowledge of transactional analysis the efficiency of information transfer is more efficient.

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However, before I continue to explain what Transactional Analysis is, I want to show that I came to the essence in a purely “natural” way, which means that I got to know it from my own experience, and that this is not something that Dr. Eric Berne (founder of Transactional Analysis, Modalities in Psychothotherapy) wrote and what we are learning today. But it is something of life, something that really exists.

Already as a student of physics I started to deal with the optimization of business processes in companies, which meant that I made the existing work in a company easier. The result was visible in lower costs, fewer complaints, better relationships and relieved employees and a resulting reduction in overtime. I was very proud of the result. However, it was not clear to me why the employees in the company started to resist after a while, and they simply did not want to accept the changes. Later, I realized that with the working method I proposed, the work would be much more transparent, it would be clear what exactly someone was doing and there would no longer be any collective responsibility. So the employees did not want to take responsibility.

Later I came across Choice Theory which led me to Reality Therapy (I completed it in 2002 with Dr. William Glasser Institute at Leon Lojko). The latter states: “that everyone is responsible for his or her own actions“. I started to apply Reality Therapy when introducing Project Management into the business process. I began to teach the employees of companies to take responsibility. I felt a “stable enthusiasm” within me, i.e. the changes lasted for quite some time. I used to have a “euphoria” that lasted for a short time. Despite the stable enthusiasm, the enthusiasm did not last long. Eventually the responsibility began to be distorted somehow, as if a greater influence was coming from somewhere. By researching corporate processes, I became a leader. My realization was that the power of the director’s information is strongest in the company. Just as he communicates information from “above”, the process takes place later. So nothing helped me to change processes, to work on the responsibilities of the employees, because my work was constantly destroyed by the director. It was absolutely clear to me that if I wanted to change something in the company, I had to start with the director.

When I started to deal with directors and get to know them better and better, I saw that each of them reacted differently. But almost everyone treats their staff the same way they treat their children. I began to pay attention to how they reacted to certain information, how they communicated with the staff, and saw that the staff understood the information they wanted to convey in a very different way.

So I myself brought many elements from the pedagogical faculty into the educational process I developed. Apart from the management method and my school, my priority remains the reorganization of companies, crisis management, crisis management, which I have been dealing with for 20 years.

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The expectations of the Director were much higher than the “skills” of the staff. He wanted from them the same thing that he himself was capable of, but they themselves could only do part of what he expected from them. Because the “imperfect” product came back to him, he returned it to the process and passed the bad mood on to the employees, and they put it back on him. In this way the dispute never ended and the product reached an almost desired level with a lot of energy, lost time and money.

It would be enough if the director would take the time to check that the employees would understand him and communicate with them, so that each of the employees would understand what he wanted to say. Then the task would be completed much faster, without additional costs and disputes. The director had to be taught to communicate and, above all, to be tolerant and listen to others.

But it was not clear to me why some directors were different? Not everyone was “explosive”, some took their time and were friendly to the staff, others were not interested in the staff at all, they just demanded. Then the question began to arise for me why we humans are different. Yes really, why are we all different?

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Yes really, why are we all different?

When I started to do personal interviews with managers, I saw that they often mentioned their parents, their childhood, you could see that especially in family businesses, when they took over the business from their parents and their children already worked in them. I was lucky to see all three generations in
the same working environment (365 family businesses). There I saw the director doing the same as his father and his son doing the same as himself. Although everyone wanted to do it differently.

I thought to myself: If I wanted to change the process in a company, I first had to deal with the director’s parents. Of course, I did not mean this literally, but to change the beliefs that the director has within himself.

Most interesting, however, was the information that employees were looking for methods to get as close as possible to the director.

Everyone has invented their own approach. It was really interesting to watch them getting creative. When I watched from so far away, I saw that it was a game at the company. The director is the main actor, and everyone else creates games so as not to end the show. When I brought that to life, I realized that we almost all play. These games make us creative, but they also make us very tired.

My conclusion was that problems in companies are caused by the directors. Because they do not know how to communicate or say what you want. But his communication problems are caused by their parents, because in a way they carry them inside them.

So I started talking to the directors about their childhood, about the problems they have with their parents, from where I saw more and more similarities in the attitude towards the employees and the parents of the directors towards them.

I got the answer to the question why someone does not want to move his chair and everyone in the company has to take 10 steps more. Because, for example, his parent did not allow him to ride his new bicycle to school on the first day of school.

So the way led me to Transactional Analysis (since 2006 I am a student in a Transactional Analysis training for a Graduate Transaction Analyst – psychotherapist at the Institute for Psychotherapy of Transactional Analysis under Martin Bertok), because I wanted to find out what parents actually leave
in us and how to free ourselves, how to recognize what someone is telling me and how to live without games? 

"Life is a stage and we have actors on it!

A myriad of questions prompted me to research Transactional Analysis. Especially the fact that we have many games in our lives and that we can live without them. In fact we are not even aware of the games. But if we look purely from the everyday life. We start the day by waking up in the morning with the partner in whose role we are, partner, lover, husband, friend… if there are children here, we also appear in the role of parents, educators, persecutors, etc., then the profession we are in, in the role of employees, superiors, subordinates, executors, motivators, etc. … We come home, maybe we visit the shop we are in between in the role of protector, logistician, etc., and at home the morning game is repeated: hunting, please, executing, …, using various tricks, games to achieve the desired goal. And when we are completely tired, we still have to use the game of seduction (when our partner does not notice us), when we want to rest in an embrace or simply feel that we exist too.

If we do this every day, we quickly notice that we are tired. What we suddenly see for ourselves, we feel that we are no longer ourselves, that we lead a different life, that we are available for others. That there are countless different people in our lives, someone else we are tired of. And then we ask ourselves: Who are we?

Countless miles and years must pass before we realize that our life is full of play. And so we come to the same conclusion as Dr. Eric Berne, which he supported in Transactional Analysis. He has described this particularly well in the book: “What game do you play?

Alone I realized that the games were beginning to tire me and I wanted to get out of them. At the same time I wanted to see the reason why we play at all.

What I saw with myself and especially with the managers of family businesses, I realized that we learn these games from parents or educators. So their life pattern continues through us. Their way of life is “implanted” in us, which we adapt in our time and space. Dr. Eric Berne justified this as a script – a script for our life.

If we look a little different. Before we are born into this world, we do not go into some preparation room where we would learn to live, but we simply come into the world as an “indescribable piece of paper”. We bring a few things into the DNA record – mainly traits, character and the like, but we learn to speak, behave, think, react by imitation. This means that the parents give us how we will live through gestures, lifestyle, a life scenario/life plan. You could say they program us. Just as we program computers that cannot make their own decisions, but do exactly what we tell them to. If we think about it a little bit now, we realize that almost every decision we make is influenced by the excellent performance of our parents. But we have the opportunity to get rid of them!

But where are they? Where are these parents? We can see in ourselves that we have a conscious and an unconscious part of consciousness. This means that we can influence some things and others not. We are amazed at how we react; at certain moments we say, “But this is not me”. And this is where our parents hide: in an unconscious part, in a part that we cannot control. This is the place where the script of our lives is written. I am not talking about fate, but about lifestyle, about decisions, about how we should dress, etc. All these recordings happen in early childhood, until the age of six.

Before I go into the lifestyle that is written in the script, I would like to say that since my teenage years I have been haunted by the idea of what the heart and mind are. When we were unhappily in love, we used to say that our heart longed for this person and our mind distracted us from it. It was a kind of  general saying, but I could not explain it to myself. I always imagined that there were two personalities in us. Well, now with the knowledge of Transactional Analysis things have become clear. There really are more people inside of us. Dr. Eric Berne described man as a being that constantly checks whether itexists. He called it a stroke, which means stroke.

An example: You walk down the street and meet a neighbor who comes in your direction, wishes you a nice day and smiles at you. You smile back and respond with the same wish. You have just exchanged “professions” with your neighbor. The line is a unit of recognition. Most of the time this exchange of professions is so close to us that we are not even aware of it anymore. Imagine a repetition of the event that happens like this. You walk down the street and meet a neighbor, you smile at him and he passes you by as if you were air.

If you are like most people, you would be very surprised at your unresponsive neighbor. You would ask yourself what is wrong? In fact, we need a stroke and feel deprived if we don’t get it (this is called attention in everyday language).

The facts are based on the findings of a very well-known study by Rene Spitz, who observed babies in an orphanage. They were well fed, clean and warm. However, they showed more physical and emotional problems than any other children raised by their mothers or other caregivers. Spitz concluded that the children lacked stimulation. All day they could only stare at the white walls of their rooms and had little physical contact with the staff at home. They lacked the touch, carding, and caress they would normally get from their parents.

Berne chose the word profession (caress), which refers to a child’s need to touch. As adults, we still crave physical contact. But we also learn to replace physical touch with other units of recognition. A smile, a compliment, a grim look, an insult – all these are signs that our existence has been recognized. Recognizable hunger is a term used by Berne to describe the need for recognition by others.

Professions can be verbal (greeting, praise, insult,…) or nonverbal (smile, gloomy look,…). Positive pods are those that the recipient perceives as positive, and negative pods are perceived as painful. From this we could conclude that people are looking for positive professions but avoiding negative ones. However, this is not true. Maybe there are even more! In reality, every profession is better than none.

This idea is also supported by an interesting study on rats (study name, performer). Two groups of rats were raised in the laboratory in identical empty boxes. One group received electroshocks a couple of times a day and the other no stimuli. To the surprise of the experimenters, the group receiving electroshocks developed better than the group without stimuli.

We, too, like rats, use both negative and positive pods to satisfy our hunger for stimuli. As children, we instinctively perceive this. We all experienced in early childhood how it is not to get a positive profession when you crave it. So we came up with different ways to get negative pods, despite their painful effect. We would rather suffer pain than be left without any profession (which is mainly reflected in families with violence).V odraslem življenju pogosto preigravamo ta vzorec iz otroštva in nadaljujemo z iskanjem negativnih strokov. To je izvor nekaterih vedenj, ki se zdijo samouničevalna.

Here we could also get the first answers as to why we are playing. Namely, our life scenario (Script) is constantly checking whether it is on the right track? Do we live as our parents taught us? If everything is according to the “plan” then everything is OK, if not, we cause a new game or in other words, we make the situation around us so that we will be Ok.

The goal of each scenario is ‘death’. Because it is the basic goal of life, it appears to us in almost every moment of life. If I write a little ironically, “Everything we do, we do to die,” which would otherwise say that the vast majority of things we do against our will, we do them to accommodate a life scenario written to please others. So I wrote earlier that we may even look for negative professions more often than positive ones.

I mentioned earlier that I found out for myself that there are several people living in us, whom I also met through Transactional Analysis.

Dr. Eric Berne also named these persons. In other words, he defined Transactional Analysis as a personality theory that shows us the psychological structure of a person. It uses a three-part model called the “ego state model”. This model also helps us to understand how people function and express their personality through behavior.

An ego state is a set of related behaviors, thoughts and feelings. It is the way we manifest a part of our personality at a particular time.

When I know, think and feel in harmony with what is happening around me in the here and now, and when I use all the resources available to me as an adult, I find myself in my “adult ego state”.

Occasionally I may know, think and feel in a way that reflects the reactions of my parents or other people who were important to me during my adolescence. Then I find myself in the “parent ego state”.

Sometimes I return to the way I behaved, thought and felt as a child. In these cases I am in the “ego state of the child”.

Each time we enter into communication, we address the interlocutor on the basis of one of the three basic states of self: as a child, as an adult or as a parent. Our interlocutor also addresses us on the basis of one of these conditions. The child and the parent have roots in our childhood, in the past. We know that the past characterizes us; Freud already said that a child is the father of man. Childhood determines our adult life in many ways. One might even say that somehow half of human beings are born, and the other half is created through education. Through education our inner psychic structures are formed. Someone who has very strict parents will probably be very strict with himself. And vice versa. A child is often characterized by inflammatory reactions similar to those in childhood; the parents, on the other hand, “return” to childhood by imitating the behavior of the parent figures.

If it can be said of parents and child within us that they are bound to the past, this does not apply to the adult. The adult does not imitate or present content from the past, but reacts independently, here and now. His behavior is in harmony with the reality of the moment. We all have all three forms of behavior, and every time we enter into any kind of communication we use one of these roles. If we look deeper, we could say that there are more roles. If we are a parent, we can be a caring parent, one who praises and caresses, an angry parent who forbids and criticizes, and so on. It’s the same with the role of the child: The first can be obedient, the second spontaneous and free, the third defiant. The concrete choice in this particular situation may depend largely on who our interlocutor is, on his or her form of communication with us. If he speaks to us sublimely, a defiant child will quickly awaken within us.

The choice of self-states is not fundamentally arbitrary, it depends on the individual’s experiences with himself and on previous personal experiences. In most cases, people behave spontaneously, especially if they are not familiar with these theories. Communication can also be very complicated: For example,
if our conversation partner reacts to an attack by a parent, the conversation can quickly end in an argument. If a conversation is continued as a child, he or she is immediately in a subordinate position. This type of communication can only be interrupted if we are aware of what is happening, which means that we are different from these roles, i.e. that we are an adult all the time.

So if we want to live without games, we need to resolve all resentments with our parents!

Transactional analysis is a method by which we can see more than others. We see the invisible and understand very well what someone is telling us. We could say that life makes us easier, because with a better understanding of ourselves and others, we do not waste time and nerves.

Of course, the article is not a promotion for transactional analysis, but is just one of the best tools I use to liberate the past. To sum it up in some way. The ego accompanies us throughout life. We actually learn to survive with it, but we have to be careful that something that is first a “solution” then does not become a cage for us. Namely, until we get rid of the shackles with our parents, we cannot get rid of the influence of the ego, and therefore parents who are initially supporters of life can represent an “effort” in a few years.

As I wrote in the title, indeed our parents write our screenplay, but that doesn’t mean we have to live it too, because we are the directors of our lives and we can change the screenplay at any time.

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My strenght, lies in being who I am!

»...my strength is that I am what I am! « I have heard it a lot lately, in fact I have heard it countless times in the past, but only now loud enough and I have also begun to understand it.

In fact, I had before me the story of a person who had been very close to me since primary school. I thought he was the greatest because he was an excellent guy, a great athlete, he was the best in all areas, but not because I wanted him to be. He was just like that. As if he had it by nature, but at the same time he was relaxed, never under pressure, he always found a solution and was calmest when
everyone was in trouble… it just seemed easy to me… that is what I want to be.

Soon I found out that he is not the only person who is his role model, but that there is a whole line of us. So I began to observe this species, unlike our Superman. . . . . .over the years.

He still remained the best, in high school, in college… …even getting his Ph.D. with his left hand… he really was the best. The others followed him. I have seen some who deliberately competed for higher positions to get noticed, to accumulate material wealth, to get noticed… and to get as much media coverage as possible. And when we met every five years on the valet’s anniversary and he mentioned to some that he noticed them bilily, they were very proud… HE noticed me. I had the feeling that they lived, just for this compliment, every five years.

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We met again last Friday after five years, and HE was still the same, maybe he looked stronger and more relaxed… probably because others around him were completely lost. Namely, that in that five year period, the political power changed, the depression… and some were out of office, they had no money and they had nothing to show for it… ON but he could show.

We did not hang out much on those anniversaries, but we drank coffee together almost every day. And today I really realize that he did nothing else but live life. In fact, he was neither “special” smart nor clever. He was just aware of his potential and he was just developing it. He was relaxed, calm inside and stayed on his path the whole time. He had no desire to prove himself, neither by material nor by media heroic deeds, although he had had enough of everything, and he did not compete for something that was only a logical consequence of his way of life.

He had no desire to prove himself, neither by material nor by media heroic deeds, although he had had enough of everything, and he did not compete for something that was only a logical consequence of his way of life.

Most of us are in search of a miracle potion, of inner strength… …and spend millions on it, travel all over the world… …but in reality, it’s all within us, we just have to get to know each other and start to enjoy it… and we really become the center of the world.

HE has always been a model for me in my work, when I developed the concept of Personality Transformation (SiriusPersonalTransformation), I observed what it is, why a person gets lost, why he falls or why he goes out of his direction…

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And I saw that he had an advantage over others because of his upbringing. They never had much at home, but they were honest with each other and with their parents, we never spoiled him, but always treated him like an adult, and so he was the only one who grew up to be an adult and mature person. Because that was his greatest asset, he was mature… all of us who still came together on anniversaries when we were 40, and we were just kids… …but not those playful kids, but the kids who never got enough attention.

That is why when I developed the Personality Change Method, I followed the guidelines that it’s important to grow up, if not at 18, then at least at 40…or 60.

And this morning, after 15 years, he asked me why you pay for coffee every morning, why you do not even let me have coffee… because I pay for coffee and I learn from you how to become an adult.

Of course, he looked at me a little more strangely. He said I did not know exactly what I was talking about because he’s always the same and he does not know what it means to be an adult.

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And today was the first time I let him pay for coffee!

And that is how the conversation was, quite different today. I explained everything about my method and about the book I had just finished. He was surprised when I told him that HE is the main character. And then he asked me how much they would be willing to pay people to become like HE, and he laughed along.

When I told him the character and that people have been waiting their whole lives to live at least 5 minutes like HE, he just could not believe it. And all for the sake of education.

He said he was convinced that he had a tough upbringing, that he admired the neighbors for treating their children differently. But it is true that my parents were my best friends all the time and they always showed me who I was, they did not let me hide from anything or anyone, I served everything myself. I really feel that I do not have some problems in life and that everything is going well for me, but I always thought it was because I am not looking for problems and I do not complicate things. I have tried to say a little bit that as a physicist and a good connoisseur of nature I am always looking for optimal solutions… but now I see that in the first years my parents just gave me the right direction and showed me how to have myself and then you can have everything.

Therefore it is never too late, the vast majority can thank you and your parents for helping me to develop this method, which today helps more and more people to free themselves from the burdens of the past and to return to the path of their lives from which they strayed many years ago.

Source: http://www.adcor.cc/clear-mind/ 

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I want women to live their dreams more intensely

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26. march 2008 (last updated: 12:57 21. march 2008)

Do not dream your life, live your dreams and How to win a woman? are the titles of two of the eight books signed by Milan Krajnc Pavlica, a 33-year-old personal and business consultant.

It helps people make changes in their business and personal lives by removing their psychological and energy blockages. He solves those who fail with psychotherapy with the help of energies such as reiki and theta healing. He teaches directors to be a director, teaches men to be men. It teaches people to set goals and helps them live what they sincerely want to be in their heart. We talked to him about successful women and men.

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How do men accept more successful, more insightful, more ambitious, and more exposed women? Are these in the often heard stereotype of “ambitious bitches” or women who know how to reach the goal or the realization of their dreams?

It very much depends on each man individually. A man who has low self-esteem and has never grown into a man takes a more successful woman as a competition or so as you yourself said. I like very ambitious women the most, because in a way I get motivation myself. It is good for women to come to the fore, but it is bad for those men who resist it, who are not willing to take steps forward on their own or do not dare to admit that women are better in all respects.

What does a man think when a woman openly and enthusiastically praises him for being attractive, for smelling nice, or for being nicely dressed? To conquer it or take it just as a compliment?

Rare Slovenian men are at such a level that when they receive a compliment, they would be able to distinguish what is just a woman’s praise and what is flirtation. Most men are convinced that women conquer them, and then they themselves approach them in this way or praise them with the intention of conquering them for adventure. However, the level of female maturity in Slovenia in the field of emotional expression is quite high, which means that women know how to give praise in various ways and at the same time maintain a decent distance.

What does a beautiful woman look like in a man’s eyes and what is an attractive woman like?

To me, all women who are honest and orderly are beautiful. Very attractive women to me, however, are those who are ambitious and are not intimidated by anything or are even feared by other men. The biggest mistake is when a woman thinks about what she should change about herself to make a man like her.

In what ways are women in leadership positions better than their male counterparts?

Women are better at organizing, taking responsibility, and connecting, and worse at delegating tasks. Their downside is also that they neglect themselves. Slovenia currently needs female leadership. Namely, we are in a phase when society is cleaning up, tidying up and arranging itself in some way so that it can achieve a new freshness. And above all, we need good organizers. These are women.

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What led to this?

The answer is in history. After World War II, men thought they had saved the country and rewarded themselves with leadership positions, taking a step back. The women were left with the support of three corners of the house and a fourth on top. They had to be extremely well organized, they had to handle expenses carefully, they took care of a tidy home and family. Where the men left most of the money in the inn, they took care of the money. This trait has been passed down through two generations to girls and women, who today occupy leading positions in the economy and political life. In fact, we men are the ones who forced women to become what they are.

In Finland, for example, 60 percent of women hold government positions, while in Slovenia only 11 percent. According to Eurostat data for 2006, only a third of women are still on company boards. How do you comment on that?

On the one hand, this is inhibited by men, and on the other hand, women’s self-esteem is still too low in some cases. Women should work harder on self-esteem. Given that these things are already changing, sooner or later this ratio will be 50 to 50 and then Slovenia will be completely balanced. Of course, men and women in leadership positions must also have male and female energy, which means that men will be men and women will be women. What bothers me most about Slovenian women is that once they take the lead, they do not live completely wholeheartedly. In a way, they take on the role of mother. They want to take care of the team, the partner, the children, they look at everything as if it were their children. In doing so, they forget about themselves. Above all, I want Slovenian women to live their dreams more intensively.

How is it known in the current generation of children that their mothers are more busy, that they want to be successful in business, good mothers and at the same time good partners?

Children are becoming more independent. They grow up very quickly. They are becoming very open and responsible.

Men also have feminine energy in them. How is it reflected?

Above all, a man must be a much more stable personality than a woman because he is a pillar of the family. This does not mean, however, that it is the man who decides who will do what, how much money someone will bring home to set the rules. The point is that when there is a crisis in the family or in the community, a woman can rely on someone. The man should show understanding, heart, he must recognize what the woman needs at that moment. But he can only understand this with feminine energy.

Yet a crisis often ends in an argument. Why?

Men make the biggest mistake when, when you lose the ground under your feet, you are in a bad mood, pushy, you have a headache, we accept your game, when you play a quarrel that you receive attention. A man should then see in his woman the most beautiful flower and so he should see her just always, no matter what verbal or non-verbal communication a woman uses at that time. Then it is best to calm her down with a word or a hug. When a man does this a few times, anger, rage, sadness, everything that is then in the woman, disappears. But as long as we men get involved in women’s games, so long will women be unhappy.

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How does a woman recognize a balanced man, that is, a man with the right amount of female energy?

Such a man has a clear goal. He does not deviate from his principles, but at the same time he is willing to admit his mistakes. And he talks about his emotions. A man needs to be confident. If his partner is ambitious, he must be very self-confident and have a high self-esteem. Which does not mean that he must be successful in business. If a woman is successful in business on her own, she does not necessarily want a successful business man with her. Above all, he wants a stable man. That when she comes home tired, she can squeeze in to someone and be there just for her.

What should a woman do when her man is in need?

At that moment, the man also needs a shoulder on which to cry, and above all, someone to listen to him. He doesn’t need someone to teach him how to act differently. All he needs then is that there is someone out there who listens to him completely without criticism.

Who is usually with spouses who seek your advice to take the initiative to visit a counseling center? Are these more often women or men?

At a stage when the marriage is not yet about to break up, but is at the beginning of a crisis, women usually suggest visiting a counseling center because they want change, they want to save the marriage. But when a marriage gets to a stage where it’s already coming to an end, men usually call for help. But then the woman is already determined to go. Men, as with most things, solve everything at the last minute, when it is often too late. Therefore, I often advise against acting by force or subordinating a woman to a man. If the thing is just before the end, let it end and rather start anew. Let your partners take a break. If they are destined to be together in the future, they can begin to conquer again and the relationship begins on new foundations. After all, we can marry the same partner several times if we want to.

What should a partner never give up?

The partner should never give up on himself, his personal and intimate desires. You must not subordinate yourself to another, you must not subordinate yourself to children or the company. In certain cases, they may agree to compromise, but they must never cross the border. Where this limit is, everyone feels within themselves. But if one does not even know where the boundaries are, one must first know oneself.

Humans are not monogamous creatures… What do you advise on love adventures?

When couples come to me for marriage counseling, we never set a goal to save the marriage at any cost. We always strive to make every individual happy. But if the couple stays together, it’s even better. This is also my starting point: that everyone is satisfied. If it is only a sexual adventure, it is the will and freedom of an individual who can do whatever he wants with himself and his body, provided, of course, that he does not endanger the freedom and health of his partner. When people get married, the marriage certificate should not be valid indefinitely, but maybe only for ten years and then the spouse would renew the vow. Why? When we get married, we stop conquering because everything seems self-evident to us. If we forget our partner and are not successful enough in winning, then it will no longer be necessary for us to go to bed together in the evening, even if we wake up together in the morning. Everyone is a completely free being and can do whatever he wants.

And if we newly fall in love?

People fall in love many times in their lives. If we know how to fall in love with the same person, it only contributes to a common relationship, to marriage. However, we must never suppress the love that is born anew outside the already existing relationship, we must experience it in some way.

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Author of the article: Milan Krajnc, pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager
I teach you to look “at yourself” as a third person. For more information or an introductory meeting, write to me at official@milankrajnc.com

How to get out of a personal crisis? "If you're up to your neck in shit, don't bow your head!" - Milan Krajnc
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How do you get out of a personalcrisis? “When you are up to your neck in shit, do not bow your head”

The lesson of all rivers, fine words... is that we need to know ourselves well enough to help each other.

Counselors, therapists, teachers, gurus… just show us the way and teach us the skills to be ready for the moment when we meet ourselves. We get into a crisis by our own power and we have to get out of it ourselves. I will not talk in the article about why and how we get into a personal crisis, the focus will be primarily on the solution and at the same time on the advice not to fall back into a personal crisis.

We have always tried to find many explanations or solutions in nature and in natural phenomena. After all, nature has “worked” for billions of years and still exists. And who takes care of it? Alone! Just like man, we are always left alone in the end. We always have to take care of ourselves, because in the end we always make the decisions. Whatever we do, we always have to decide.

How to get out of a personal crisis? "If you're up to your neck in shit, don't bow your head!" - Milan Krajnc

And if we are really alone in the end, we have to be prepared for it. We have to be strong enough to stand up to ourselves so that we do not fall under the burden of the burdens we have imposed on ourselves.

To inform you,                                                                                                          to open your eyes                                                                                                     for the time of your decision has come,                                                                    when you read this book,
you will go with the times                                                                                          and start a new life,                                                                                                    you will overcome fear                                                                                              and become the Lord of the universe and yourself.

BUT BEWARE!

Every man has his limits.
(Introduction to the book Warrior without Face, 1994, Milan Krajnc)

The lesson of all rivers, fine words… is that we need to know ourselves well enough to help each other. Counselors, therapists, teachers, gurus… just show us the way and teach us the skills to be ready for the moment when we meet ourselves. We get into a crisis by our own power and we have to get out of it
ourselves.

Now on the path and back to nature.

Take the course of a stream as an example. If the stream flows, it is drinkable and clear, if it is dammed somewhere, the water in it becomes of bad taste and smell. The main difference is the temperature. The stream in the stream is colder. And if we look, where do we humans prefer it? In the warm. So you might say we like to stop and warm up a bit.

How to get out of a personal crisis? "If you're up to your neck in shit, don't bow your head!" - Milan Krajnc

We are almost always looking for comfort, or rather lightness. And the state of the stream in stagnation is equal to the state of the person in stagnation. When we feel good or safe in a situation, we try to “anchor” ourselves there. This security is basically just a feeling and is called the “comfort zone“; we are warm there and why should we move if we are nice, we manage the situation. Perhaps
even like the saying: “Better the first in the village than the last in the city.”

And as it gets warmer for us, we find it harder and harder to move. When I go back to the creek, to the part where we dammed it up – the dead sleeve, we could say that it’s getting warmer and warmer, but it also “smells” more and more, not to mention tastes. So we are talking about a comfort zone. However, we ourselves feel this as a bad feeling, dissatisfied with ourselves, the environment also hinders us… we could say that we are feeling the first signs of a personal crisis. We complain, but we do not know why, because basically there is nothing wrong with us.

To sum up: when a stream flows, it is clear and drinkable; when we are in “movement – we develop – we grow personally”, we are satisfied with ourselves, we are happy. When the stream is dammed – dead sleeve, the water is tasteless, disturbed and has a bad smell; when we do the same for a long time, we do not develop, we start to be dissatisfied with ourselves, we are depressed, everything
around us is “wrong”. This means that we have to get out of this comfort zone, even though we feel warm and comfortable. We will “stink” in this puddle, and everyone will avoid us, even though it is usually overfilled in such puddles. But nobody likes frogs either.

 

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We call a “comfort zone” a state in which we feel good in principle, but we know that not everything is right, and yet we do not move until there is a crisis.

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It is the most dangerous zone because it can deceive us very quickly, it lowers our self-confidence and we lose our sense of reality. A friend said ten years ago that “one joint a week really cannot kill”; I went to his funeral yesterday because he died of a heroin overdose; but now he’s carefree, forever.

When we enter the zone of the period, we must above all be stable, and it is only suitable for a short rest. A longer stay can be “fatal”. In any case, it opens the door to a dark world, which we call a personal crisis. The personal crisis begins in our head and then slowly passes to the physical organs, which at first leads to colds, headaches… and eventually cancer. Now this does not mean that everyone who sits down and rests for a while will die of cancer, but it does mean that we should never forget ourselves.

There is always a way out of a personal crisis. But not in the easy way that we got into them.

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How to solve the crisis? How to get out of the problem and solve it? - Milan Krajnc
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How can the crisis be resolved, how to get out of the problem and how to solve it

When solving crises, the first step is the most important, if we make a mistake with the first step, it is better to withdraw immediately.

The crisis can be solved by those who are not burdened with the problem. That is why it is always advisable in companies to hire a crisis management team, a group of external consultants or a consultant to cut the “Gordian knot”, calm the terrain (communication, atmosphere, organization) and prepare the ground for a new organization. Then there must be a leadership or a guide to bring the new organization to life. This person is actually the new director.

Every day I hear the sentence: “How do I solve the crisis? The answer can be very simple when we know who caused the crisis. It is of course more difficult to solve. But the first condition we have to be aware of is that every crisis is solvable. The most difficult thing is to solve the crisis that we ourselves have caused. We make the biggest mistake when we start to solve the crisis that we ourselves have caused, because the result will be an even bigger crisis.

When we solve a crisis, we must not be narrow-minded, but must rise very high above the problem and always look at it globally or as a “big picture”. Only in this way can we begin to solve the crisis at the right end.

A former director (when we talk about a company) or a crisis manager can never run a company when it comes out of a crisis. Why? The former director’s behavior has brought the company into a crisis, which means that he must first change his behavior patterns if he wants to run the company in a different way (so that he can continue to run the company conditionally) if there is no new crisis. However, a crisis manager only knows how to solve crises, which means that when a company comes out of a crisis, it is no longer able to manage it, but can recreate a crisis so that it can solve it again.

How to get out of a personal crisis? "If you're up to your neck in shit, don't bow your head!" - Milan Krajnc

If we are the ones who caused the crisis and still want to lead the company forward (especially if we are the owners of the majority capital in that company), we have to change the patterns of behavior that caused the crisis in the company. This can be done during the restructuring of the company. In this way, the company and the director are “rehabilitated” at the same time.

First, the director must learn to get out of the problem. This means looking at himself and the company as a third party. Because while he is working in a company, the director starts to look at the company as one of his body organs and no longer pays attention to the mistakes that occur.

Short exercise:
Let’s try to imagine that our image is sitting opposite us and consider it as a third person, a person we do not know, and slowly start to describe it. What do we see in her, what do we think about her clothes, her attitude, her facial expression, what do we think about her life goals, what does she expect from the day, how does she feel, how does she react in certain situations… in short, as you have
already noticed, we gradually shift our attention to other areas as we get to know ourselves in other ways. Such a conversation should last at least 30 minutes, several days in a row. After this time we will be very clear, and above all it is advisable to change the daily place. Of course, we will not solve the crisis overnight in this way, but we will gradually begin to recognize the real problems and their causes, i.e. we will gradually be able to begin to eliminate them. However, the process may take too long, so I advise you to seek an external consultant or therapist.

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If I do a recap. If you feel that something is going wrong, or if your colleagues, close, business partners are dissatisfied, stop the regular activities, but do not make any drastic changes at this point, but we need to take time to think and get out of the problem. If heaven is successful, seek outside help. Remember that any crisis is solvable, even if it seems impossible at this moment.

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Author of the article: Milan Krajnc, pedagogue, entrepreneur & crisis manager I teach you to look “at yourself” as a third person. For more information or an introductory meeting, write to me at official@milankrajnc.com
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